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Uncover these signs of a toxic relationship so you can avoid them.

Every relationship is unique. It has its own strengths and weakness. It has bad and good sides. But it always starts healthy. It’s always full of affection, passion, and amazing nights from the start until it starts being unhealthy and leads to toxic relationships. 

What makes a relationship healthy and unhealthy? How do you handle toxic people?

Below are signs that you may be with a toxic person. 

1. Your boundaries are violated

I think it’s important that we occasionally distance ourselves from someone. Maintain some hobbies, and interests and spend some time alone. Set boundaries to keep your identity and authenticity. Don’t let your whole identity be consumed by a romantic relationship.

Violation of boundaries damages the relationship. Set boundaries. Be yourself

2. The person is trying to change you

One of my greatest lessons in life is you can’t make a person change. It signifies control and manipulation even if with good intentions. Your partner doesn’t get to decide what’s right and best for you. Your partner doesn’t get to tell you what to do. I believe change is a choice you make with the encouragement and inspiration of others. 

3. Constant arguments and jealousy

Disagreements and differences in opinion are inevitable in a relationship but constant arguments and jealousy without respect is a different story. It is not healthy to argue about little and useless things. 

If your partner is always jealous of you or other things our valid reasons, you know that you are in a toxic relationship.

4. Silent treatment

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Problems cannot be solved when they are hidden and silenced. You cannot solve a thing when it’s not brought out and talked about properly. Some people might take silence as a way to treat clashes but if not handled properly it leads to secrecy, insecurities, and frustrations. 

Don’t stay in a relationship just because you are afraid to lose the company. You should know when to leave.

5. You are drowning in his negative energy

Does this sound familiar to you? then you’re in a toxic relationship. It’s like you have no right to be happy because your partner doesn’t share the same feeling. Don’t be guilty about feeling good and being happy. Toxic people won’t celebrate your achievements because they lack empathy. Instead, they pour their negative energy into you. 

6. Your efforts are not appreciated

We all need appreciation. If you feel like you are always neglected and you feel like not needed, you have the decision to stay away. Don’t waste your time and effort on people who take you for granted. 

7. The relationship feels more like a duty

A relationship is a choice that we make every day. It should not feel like a duty or obligation.

8. Your partner is trying to force things on you

You cannot be yourself when you are forced to do things in a relationship. It’s a violation of rights and it damages the relationship. 

A relationship is always a partnership, not ownership

9. Bad things outweigh good things

Try to evaluate your relationship with someone. When you experience more bad things than good things, It is a sign that you might be in a toxic relationship. List the things you feel happy and sad about, and compare them. It will tell you if you are in a healthy relationship or not.

10. Comparisons

People are always wired with comparisons. It’s hard not to compare someone these days but it’s not an excuse. Everyone is unique and with different interests, beliefs, hobbies, and perspectives in life. 

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Pat yourself because you made it to the conclusion. Were you in a toxic relationship? which of these signs have you experienced? Comment them down below.



  1. Jessa F Acala

    January 21, 2021 at 1:13 PM

    The Comparison part is a no-no for me. Yung tipong ” yung ex ko mas ganito mas ganyan. ” Naku. Balik ka nalang sa ex mo. haha.


    January 21, 2021 at 10:59 AM

    5…6…7…9… yikes…. di naman actually toxic.. pero alamo yun… parang housemates na lang ganun… no matter how hard you try.. ang ending ikaw pa ang mali.. hugotttt

  3. Blair Villanueva

    January 21, 2021 at 9:39 AM

    I agree with all you’ve mentioned. Being in a toxic relationship isn’t worth it, kahit na may anak na kayo. Learn to love, give value and respect yourself first.

  4. kurteverfresh

    January 21, 2021 at 7:09 AM

    Inspiring tips for those having a hard times with their partner. ❤ Set your boundaries always. it makes you two feel better and happy. God bless ms. Ali🙌

  5. clang clang

    January 21, 2021 at 5:52 AM

    I’ll take note of this, napakahelpful ng article. And same din tayo nung one of the greatest lesson in life that you can’t make people a person change.

  6. Sarrah

    January 21, 2021 at 1:27 AM

    Reading your article made me remember my ex. It was a toxic relationship I thank God I got out off despite our engagement. His negative energy was drowning me, pulling me away from my values and my loved ones, making me feel less of a person. I still am grateful for him though coz I learned a lot and became a stronger person. I am now preparing for a wedding with a man who nourishes me and loves me unconditionally.


    January 20, 2021 at 3:22 PM

    I’ve never been in any relationship yet, but I’ll go ahead and take this advice for myself in my journey of finding love. I think that communication is key and of course, you have to have the right intentions when going into a relationship. Haha

  8. Latain

    August 17, 2020 at 2:52 AM

    Silent treatment is the worst, or at least one of…

    Good read, definitely took notes.

  9. Roan

    August 16, 2020 at 2:43 AM

    Haven’t got a relationship but will definitely take note of this 💕

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