Every relationship is unique. It has its own strengths and weakness. It has bad and good sides. But it always starts healthy. It’s always full of affection, passion, and amazing nights from the start until it starts being unhealthy and leads to toxic relationships.
What makes a relationship healthy and unhealthy?
How do you handle toxic people?
Below are signs that you may be with a toxic person.
1. Your boundaries are violated
I think it’s important that we occasionally distance ourselves from someone. Maintain some hobbies, interests and spend some time being alone. Set boundaries to keep your identity and authenticity. Don’t let your whole identity be consumed by a romantic relationship.
Violation of boundaries damages the relationship. Set boundaries. Be yourself
2. The person is trying to change you
One of my greatest lessons in life is you can’t make a person change. It signifies control and manipulation even if with good intentions. Your partner doesn’t get to decide what’s right and best for you. Your partner doesn’t get to tell you what to do. I believe change is a choice you make with the encouragement and inspiration of others.
3. Constant arguments and jealousy
Disagreements and difference in opinion is inevitable in a relationship but constant arguments and jealousy without respect is a different story. It is not healthy to argue about little and useless things.
If your partner is always jealous of you or other things with our valid reasons, you know that you are in a toxic relationship.
4. Silent treatment
Problems cannot be solved when they are hidden and silenced. You cannot solve a thing when it’s not brought out and talked properly. Some people might take silence as a way to treat clashes but if not handled properly it leads to secrecy, insecurities and frustrations.
Don’t stay in a relationship just because you are afraid to lose company. You should know when to leave.
5. You are drowning in his negative energy
Does this sound familiar to you? then you’re in a toxic relationship. It’s like you have no right to be happy because your partner doesn’t share the same feeling. Don’t be guilty of feeling good and being happy. Toxic people won’t celebrate with your achievements because they lack empathy. Instead they pour their negative energy to you.
6. Your efforts are not appreciated
We all need appreciation. If you feel like you are always neglected and you feel like not needed, you have the decision to stay away. Don’t waste your time and effort on people who take you for granted.
7. The relationship feels more like a duty
Relationship is a choice that we make everyday. It should not feel like a duty nor obligation.
8. Your partner is trying to force things on you
You cannot be yourself when you are forced to do things in a relationship. It’s a violation of rights and it damages the relationship.
A relationship is always a partnership, not ownership
9. Bad things outweigh good things
Try to evaluate your relationship with someone. When you experience more bad things than good things, It is a sign that you might be in a toxic relationship. List the things you feel happy and sad, compare them. It will tell you if you are in a healthy relationship or not.
People are always wired with comparisons. It’s hard not to compare someone these days but it’s not an excuse. Every one is unique and with different interests, beliefs, hobbies and perspectives in life.
Pat yourself because you made it till conclusion. Were you in a toxic relationship? which of these signs have you experienced? Comment them down below.