Hello there! What are life lessons and why are they important? In my 28 years of existence here are some of the valuable life lessons you need to hear and know.
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Here are life lessons you need to hear right now
There’s no such thing as “too much knowledge.” Life is full of lessons that we learn over time. Some of these lessons are hard to accept at first, but they become easier to understand when we look back on our lives.
1. You can’t make a person change
I’ve had people in my life who love them hurts but losing them hurts too. So, I would think how can I change them but as years go by I realized you can’t make people change. You can inspire and encourage them to change. You can only educate and support them toward change.
For a person to change, they must feel that change is theirs. Not forced or controlled. We don’t get to decide what’s right and better for our partners, friends, and families. It is their own choice.
2. You can’t force friendship on someone
There are two kinds of friends in life, the kind that when you go away for a long time and come back, it feels like nothing has changed. And the kind that when you go away and come back, it feels like everything has changed. Before coming to Japan, I thought I had a lot of friends. I loved going out and hanging out with people.
I couldn’t stand staying at home on the weekends but when I came to work in Japan and came back after a year and a half, many of the people I was close to didn’t even bother to call or show up. The unexpected people turned out they are the ones who truly cared. From that time on, I realized when someone decides you aren’t their priority anymore, don’t force yourself on them. I knew back then who to keep and treasure as a friend.
3. Follow and listen to inspiring people
Watch inspiring videos on youtube. Watch inspiring movies and listen to inspiring podcasts. Read inspiring articles and books. It will change your perspectives in life and will help you keep your motivation high. Here’s a list of people I follow and learn things and get inspiration from.
4. Choose courage over comfort
I know we resist discomfort in our lives but I leave you this “the only way to grow is to step out of our comfort zones”. Learn new things, discover, and explore. Learn a new hobby, read new books, acquire new skills with Udemy or learn a language with Italki, and visit places you’ve never been to before.
5. Fear will always be with us
You might say, I want to explore but it’s a scary world out there. It is natural to fear the unknown, fear the uncertainties, and fear risks but I would say fear will always be there. You can’t make it disappear so my advice is to acknowledge fear. Know that it will always be with you but don’t let it drive or consume you. You are the driver of your journey and let the fear stay in the backseat.
Big magic taught me to conquer my fears. I can’t recommend this book enough.
6. Struggles make you stronger
Imagine if we get what we want every time, no struggles, no hard work, no challenges. We might say that would be great but we would be weak and then if something hard comes up in our lives, we wouldn’t know how to handle it. We cannot grow without struggles. We cannot develop strength without resistance either. Without challenges, our life would be meaningless.
If things are not going right, stay a little longer, a month longer, a year longer. When you are tired with what you are doing, when you are losing motivation, always go back to your reason why you started.
7. Start your day with gratitude and end your day with gratitude
In times you get tired, dread things, or not looking forward to doing things, start with gratitude and appreciation. It changes our mindsets. I keep a gratitude journal with me. I always go back to it when I lose track.
Life Lessons You Need To Hear from Your Parents
It’s often said that parents have more wisdom than anyone else. So, when they tell you something, listen up! Here are four important life lessons you need to hear from your parents.
1. Don’t be afraid to ask questions
Asking questions is one of the best ways to learn new skills. And there’s nothing wrong with asking your parents questions. In fact, they probably have some answers for you!
If you want to know something, ask. You might be surprised at what you find out. For example, if you were curious about how to get rid of a cold sore, you could ask your mom. She might tell you that she had one once, too, and that it went away after a few days. Or maybe she would say that she used a mixture of honey and lemon to treat her cold sores. Either way, you’d have learned something new.
2. Always do your best
You might have heard this a lot of times when you were a kid but it is one of the most valuable lessons we can learn from our parents.
If you do your best at everything you do, you will succeed more often than not. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that you should only try your hardest when you’re doing something you enjoy. However, if you put forth your absolute best effort every day, you will achieve far more than if you just tried your hardest.
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3. Never give up
Don’t give up. No matter how bad things seem, there is always hope. Even if you feel like giving up, keep going.
If you’re feeling discouraged, remember that you’ve been through worse. You’ve lost jobs, you’ve had relationships end, you’ve experienced financial hardship, you’ve gone through a rough patch at work, you’ve dealt with illness, you’ve been betrayed, you’ve suffered loss, you’ve struggled with depression, you’ve felt lonely, you’ve failed, you’ve fallen short, you’ve worked, you’ve prayed, you’ve loved, you’ve laughed. Never give up.
4. Take care of yourself first
If you’re feeling down, take care of yourself first. It might sound simple, but it’s not easy to do. We often put ourselves last when we’re stressed out, tired, or overwhelmed. This isn’t healthy.
When you feel bad, you want to fix things right away. You want to get back to being happy. But if you try to fix everything at once, you won’t be able to. You’ll end up making mistakes and causing more problems than you were trying to solve.
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What are the life lessons you need to know?
We are given this life to live it, to drive through it. Go out there and learn more life lessons. What are your life lessons? Post them in the comment section. Inspire others with what you’ve learned.
Fransic verso says
I agree and I say it from experience as well. I tried a lot of times to change people I came to realize people won’t change.
Thank you for reading 🙂
Tina Gleisner says
You’re lucky to have discovered so early that you can change people … and yes, some friends are for life but most are not. Love that you’re exploring these things as I lived in Tokyo for 3 years & know how challenging life there can be … good luck!
Thank you Tina. Yeah, I learned that people come and go. I learned how to accept and that we cant hold people back from staying. Tokyo is such a busy and amazing city. How was your experience?