A happy relationship starts with a good dating experience. For this reason, most women rely on dating apps to have a great head start in dating. Yet, even successful women end up frustrated right after their first date.
What could have possibly gone wrong?
Dating coach and love expert Evan Marc Katz reveal that some dating tips can ruin your chance to find love. Unawareness of this fact will be your love life’s downfall.
So here are some popular but questionable relationship coaching advice you should avoid to find lasting love.
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Myth #1: Unconditional Love Happens When You Least Expect It
Talking about cliches, holding on to this saying will not help a successful woman find true love.
Stop with the, “But my friend experienced it,” thinking because it’s not necessarily right. Yes, it might be the case for someone you know. But will it be the same for you?
What works for another person might not work for you. Every person’s experience of love differs, so one’s success story has little to do with yours.
Besides that, dating coach Evan Marc Katz believes dating once a week does not make you desperate. The truth is, dating is better than waiting for love to come to your doorstep.
Remember, good relationships are not the result of a whirlwind romance. So, if you want love to find you, make an effort to go to dating sites and search for love.
Myth #2: You Need to Feel Sparks and Butterflies in Your Love Life
You might have heard someone saying, “I know it is Mr. Right when there are butterflies in my stomach.” Or sometimes, they keep on looking for a spark.
Sure, it is a wonderful feeling. But in real life, these are merely signs of physical attraction.
If a guy makes you feel the chemistry, it’s not a guarantee of a lasting relationship. So, you cannot hold on to a feeling as an indicator that a relationship is right.
Myth #3: Give Everyone a Chance
There’s nothing wrong with matchmaking. Some of your friends might set you up with someone and ask you to give them a chance.
But this might lead you to think that you have to “like” whoever your friends set you up with.
Remember that even when there’s some matchmaking involved, there’s no guarantee that you will fall in love. You should not feel obliged to return someone’s feelings just because he’s a nice guy.
If someone does not interest you, it might be kinder to tell them “no.” After all, it would be mean to give someone hope and then crush it.
Myth #4: Play Hard to Get
One too many blogs advise single women to play hard-to-get. Meaning, that regardless if you like the guy, you must act uninterested—all in the hopes of making them crave your attention.
But if you do it, does it guarantee the attention of the one guy you like? No.
There’s a fine line between playing hard to get and sending the message that you do not like someone. As per the Love U coach’s stance, men are unlikely to pursue a woman out of their league.
Be straightforward. Try to look interested, but do not appear desperate. Send messages that imply, “I am picky, but you caught my interest.”
Either way, show your interest if you want a second date.
Myth #5: Opposites Attract
Some people find it interesting to spend time with people as different from them as possible.
People with opposing qualities may attract each other because of their differences. But as the relationship goes on, these wrong qualities for each other may create problems. A couple’s relationship may end up having more conflicts than similarities.
For example, a cautious person may become irritated with a reckless partner. An emotional person might feel like they are dating a robot when they date a rational man.
Yes, opposites may attract. Yet, people often select those most like themselves in the long run.
Myth #6: Be at Your Best Version
This might sound like sound dating advice, but it also implies that you have to hide your flaws. And doing so might be the start of a relationship heading towards disaster.
Because no matter how you try to keep up your facade, your personality will still show.
So, even if your intentions are pure, you should not “be your best self” on a date. Embrace your flaws. Own them.
Do not try and be someone you are not just to hold onto someone because that is not how love works. Good men who genuinely like you will accept you for who you are.
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I haven’t dated in so long, and I wouldn’t know where to begin. These are good tips, and it is good to get into dating with some valuable advice.
Hehe….I so much agree with our dating expert of today! To more love and romance, everyone.
The one I like best, among these, is the myth that opposites attract. You may be attracted at first because the fact that someone is opposite of you could seem interesting. But if the other person is really, truly opposite, the relationship is likely doomed.
I’m going to comment on the first one because for me, it came when I was literally sitting at a bar telling my friend how I’m deleting my dating apps because they just don’t work for me. Then boom an amazing man came out of nowhere. I know it’s not true for everyone and it’s important to put yourself out there. This is a great blog and I am newly in a relationship so definitely taking some of the advice!
I’m so happy he debunked a lot of these well-known myths. I also agree with your statement “A happy relationship starts with a good dating experience.”
I completely agree about not playing hard to get! I never understood that rule. I think if you like someone, it’s OK to just like them.
Oh wow. I think I’ve believed all of these myths for my entire life! I think this is going to help a lot of people who hare looking for love.
I have to say that your first myth has been pretty true for myself and a lot of people I know. As soon as I stopped worrying about finding “the one”, focused on myself, my career and my degree and suddenly I was introduced to the man who has been my husband for the last 16 years.
While I’m no dating expert by far (having only been in 3 serious relationships in my life, the last is my husband of over a decade now), I agree with these! Especially about just being yourself. If someone falls in love with a persona you are putting out there, you either have to let them see the real you eventually or keep it up forever.
This is great advice! Dating is tricky and I am so glad that I am out of the game (LOL) but staying true to yourself and meeting new people, you can’t go wrong.